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Now I understand what my middle school Turkish teacher wanted to convey by emphatically adding the sentence “It is also a crime for those who have golden words to keep silent” after the phrase “Silence is golden if the word is silver”.

We have been trained in being silent by taking it from infancy to parenthood in different forms and doses. With “protective(!)” commands such as Be careful, not to cut off your hand, leave it our self-confidence excavated and the foundations of silence were laid. With the hoping words like, don’t get involved, let no tension arises from you, the floors slowly was built in the education age. As age and life progress, the mansion of silence has taken its place in ourselves with took down, tolerance, and protection (!).

Silence, which shows itself as the right thing by looping its existence, is actually not an appropriate attitude unless we live alone in the big world. As silence is not a communication model and it has 👇🏻 two toxic meanings in its essence.

• Reluctantly confirming a situation that you know is not true.
• Disapproving in a situation where you give a grain of truth but you don’t want to contradict yourself.

Imagine your alarm clock didn’t go off by saying, “You were sleeping so well, I didn’t want to disturb you”, or the refrigerator didn’t give a warning with the thought that “he must have noticed that the door wasn’t closing, he knows for sure”. Won’t these good intentions result in tardiness and spoiled food in the long run?

In all non-singular interactions (couple, group, community) that take place in flowing time with justice, communication is the basis of progress. Silence; functions like sets that are unconsciously laid on this road, under the guise of goodwill or modesty. A small crack that starts with silence grows stronger by other silences over time. It enlarges and breaks into more difficult-to-control cracks, “perhaps still silently, but inside” making a very loud noise.

In fact, that voice is always there. It is the result of being +1 and continues to increase. The sound becomes an idea, it is shared, and when it is understood, it begins to walk together. Silence is like following, it becomes a burden with issues that are not mutually understood on the way. Instead of being quiet, talking can be a good new habit to get rid of unnecessary burdens on the road.

Stay healty